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Is Valentine’s Day overrated?

Joanne Michelle

I recently watched the movie I Hate Valentine’s Day with Nia Vardalos and John Corbett.

It’s an oldie but a goodie. The character Nia plays doesn’t believe in love but loves romance. Five dates she says, five dates where you feel the butterflies and excitement, five dates for the romance, five dates and it’s over. She never wanted a relationship, but the feeling you get from the romance, the anticipation of love is better than the whole relationship.

Do you agree?

What is the perfect relationship? Is it only those first few dates?

Does Valentine’s Day – the ultimate date night – mean anything if you’re single? And if you’re in a relationship, is it totally overrated?

And where did it all start? Are we so caught up in the hype of the marketing and keeping up with the Joneses in the 21st Century that we forget to really understand what Valentine’s Day is…?

Back in the Third Century, the Roman Empire was ruled by Emperor Claudius II Gothicus, who decided to cancel marriages due to a lack of men volunteering for the army, as men didn’t want to leave their loved ones. But Saint Valentine being a romantic, started secretly marrying couples before they set off. It makes my heart swell.

But how does that help a single woman, you ask?

As a single woman, to me, I feel Valentine’s Day is a time to spend with people I love and care about. It doesn’t mean I have to be in a relationship to feel love and it sure doesn’t mean I need to spend money on overpriced goods leading up to the day.

If you find yourself single this Valentine’s Day, don’t see it as a negative. See it as another day. Another day to embrace your life. Another day to enjoy the little things in life. To feel love. Remember no one defines who you are and being single doesn’t mean you are missing out on love. Sure, being in a relationship and experiencing the love that comes from someone special is amazing and something to cherish when you find your true love, but don’t stress if you don’t have a partner right now. Start with yourself first.

Feel the love from within first.

Back to Valentine’s Day. If you’re dreading being alone this year or having no luck with dating, there are a few options for you.

Check in with yourself

Ask yourself the following: Do I like who I am at the moment? If you are unsure, focus on your strengths, look at the gifts you offer to yourself and to others. Ask yourself: what are my interests? What makes me happy? You don’t need a significant other to make you happy – especially on Valentine’s Day.

WANT LOVE? GO FIND IT

Maybe it’s time to download (or redownload) an app? Read my guide here.

If you’re over the whole dating scene, maybe try a dating event with a twist. CitySwoon arrived in Canberra last year and on Friday, February 10, CitySwoon is hosting a Valentine’s Day event.

If you’re single and ready to mingle (or at least be doted on by shirtless waiters…ahem) Bonkers will be throwing their very own Valentine’s event that promises to be unlike anything you’ve seen in Canberra before (pictured above).

Hang out with your family and friends

Grab your single girlfriends and make a date with them. Cook dinner at home, go to the movies, tackle Mt Ainslie or head to the Kingston Foreshore for a meal and drink. There is plenty to do. Have fun and enjoy the evening.

If you’re like me, you will wake up to another day, Valentine’s Day or not, and enjoy the day as you would any other day. Embrace it. Because February 14 is just another day. Whether you are single or not.

I know many women who love being single and I would love to hear what you do during this day. Do you take it as any other day or do you take the time to do something special for yourself?

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Joanne Michelle

Joanne is Founder of Joanne Michelle and is a certified Health Coach and Divorcee who has set up Canberra’s first one-on-one break-up coaching program; offering health and wellness advice and practical techniques to help provide much needed support to women after their break-up or divorce. Joanne’s mission is to support and EMPOWER women to rediscover their identity after their break-up or divorce. With lack of support during her own personal experience, Joanne wanted to ensure women have the much needed support on offer. Going through a break-up or divorce can often be a mentally and emotionally devastating time, not to mention stressful. With this in mind, Joanne is now providing a coaching service to support women after their break-up. Joanne is caring and approachable, and knows first-hand, life doesn’t end once you divorce. For more information, please visit www.joannemichelle.com.au or email [email protected] More about the Author

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