Parenthood and perinatal wellbeing challenges: a guide to the festive season
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The festive season often comes wrapped in twinkling lights, Christmas carols, and the scent of gingerbread. But for those with a newborn or navigating perinatal depression and anxiety, it can feel a little different.
If this time of year is weighing heavy on your shoulders, know that you’re not alone. Here’s how to make the season a little easier to handle.
Feel all the feelings
Let’s be honest – Christmas doesn’t always feel magical. Social media might show you picture-perfect family moments, but your reality doesn’t have to look like that. Sad? Exhausted? Completely over it? That’s all okay. There’s no “right” way to experience the holidays.
Start traditions that work for you
Rather than trying to keep up with what everyone else is doing, why not create your own traditions? Here are some simple ones to try:
- Snap a photo with your baby by the Christmas tree and recreate it each year.
- Build (and devour) a gingerbread house – pre-made kits welcome!
- Make a festive handprint or footprint art with your little one.
- Settle in for a family movie night – bring the mattress into the loungeroom or grab some cosy blankets and your favourite snacks.
These moments don’t need to be social media-worthy. They’re about connection, not perfection.
Newborns and the holidays: keeping stress at bay
The holidays don’t have to rest on your shoulders. As a new parent, it’s okay – and necessary – to set boundaries that work for your family.
Let other family members take the reins in organising festive gatherings this year. Whether it’s hosting, meal preparation, or decorating, allow loved ones to handle the heavy lifting. When attending social events, be clear about what works for you: set realistic arrival times that align with family’s routine and don’t hesitate to leave early if needed. Prioritising your family’s needs isn’t selfish – it ensures you can enjoy the holidays without burnout.
Give yourself a well-deserved break
Feeling the pressure to do it all? It really is OK to dial it down.
- Order takeaway or throw together a low-effort dinner. Everyone loves Breakfast for dinner!
- Ask a friend, family member, or your partner to take over baby duties for a little while. Use that time for yourself – whether it’s a nap, a coffee date, or a walk to clear your mind.
- Shake things up with a little outing. Christmas markets, quiet walks, or a gallery visit can help you feel refreshed.
Connection comes in many forms
Virtual connections can bring festive cheer to those who can’t be with loved ones. Set up a video call, cue the Christmas music, and share a cup of tea together—no matter the distance.
When family isn’t an option
On the other hand, not everyone has family nearby (or at all). If that’s you, here are a few ideas:
- Build a chosen family by reaching out to friends or community groups. A shared meal or walk can go a long way.
- Check out local holiday events or support groups. Many organisations offer spaces to connect.
You don’t have to feel festive
Here’s your permission to dial down the Christmas spirit if it’s not for you this year. If someone tries to lift your mood and it’s not working, a kind but firm “Thanks for caring, but I need to take things at my own pace” can be a lifesaver.
Help is available
You’re not alone in this. Support is available if you’re feeling overwhelmed or need a listening ear. The Perinatal Wellbeing Centre understands perinatal mental health challenges and is here to help.
This Christmas, let go of perfection and focus on your wellbeing. Whether your holiday is filled with laughter or quiet moments of self-care, it’s enough.
For resources and support, visit Perinatal Wellbeing Centre. You’ve got this. ❤️
