Are you watching kids scroll through life, with their rapid-fire thumbs and a six-second attention…
Navigating the family law system and the day-to-day logistics of separation are some of the many obstacles you’ll overcome after your relationship breaks down. But getting there isn’t always easy, especially for the little ones in the household.
Separation affects every aspect of life—from your finances, your family relationships and your children’s routines. In the life of a child, a family breakdown can be a traumatic and unsettling time.
When told of the news, children may feel sad, angry, anxious and confused. The age of your child can also affect how they comprehend and adapt to this new change in their world.
Reading with your child is a practical way you can help ease their transition through separation and divorce. In child-centred terms, books can assist children to understand what’s happening in their family, lessen the impact of change for them and open up a conversation about the feelings and worries that can come with the shift in your family during separation and divorce.
We’ve hand-picked some excellent children’s books, tried and tested by many of our clients (and ourselves!) for various ages and stages of children.
At Parker Coles Curtis we understand that each family is unique and there isn’t a standard pathway for everyone’s separation or divorce.
We provide care, choice and practical solutions which focus on keeping the children’s interests firmly in mind. If you need assistance with parenting plans and custody orders contact us for a free 15-minute phone call on (02) 551 2660 or simply book online parkercolescurtis.com.au
The Invisible String by Patrice Karst
A classic for children who experience separation anxiety in any situation, this heart-warming story helps children cope with being apart from a parent, because the ‘invisible string’ keeps them connected always.
Teaching that the Invisible String is made of love and, even though you can’t see it with your eyes, you can feel it deep in your heart, you will know that you are always connected to the ones you love.
This is a book for all ages to explore the intangible yet unbreakable connections between us, and opens up deeper conversations about love.
Why Do Families Change? Our first talk about separation and divorce by Dr Jillian Roberts
Often young children blame themselves or are unsure of their place in the family when separation or divorce happens.
Written by a child psychologist, this book helps adults start conversations with young ones about difficult times in their lives.
Why Do Families Change? is part of the Just Enough series. Other topics in the series include birth, death and diversity.
Love Makes a Family by Sophie Beer
A book embracing the uniqueness and diversity of families of all shapes and sizes, this is a beautifully illustrated book for all children—including those who may feel ‘different’ because they have more than one home.
Written by a Brisbane-based author, the book’s message that “whether you have two mums, two dads, one parent, or one of each, there’s one thing that makes a family a family… and that’s love” is an oft returned repeated concept that can provide reassurance and normality during times of change and upheaval.
Two Homes by Claire Masuel
A great book to help children and parents conceptualise what life living in two homes might look like, and taking an optimistic approach to doing so.
It’s a simple, matter-of-fact and positive child-centered story.
Mum and Dad Glue by Kes Gray
A little boy tries to find a pot of parent glue to stick his mum and dad back together.
His parents have come undone and he wants to mend their marriage, stick their smiles back on and make them better.
This story is brilliantly told with a powerful message that even though his parents may be broken, their love for him is not.
This is a perfect tale for children who are feeling angry or resistant about the changes that come with separation and divorce, while guiding them to acceptance.
I Don’t Want to Talk About it: A Story of Divorce for Young Children by Jennie Franz Ransom
Featuring a comprehensive afterword that describes common reactions by children to divorce, this book offers parents suggestions for helping their children adjust and thrive after divorce.
When a child’s parents tell her they have decided to divorce, the last thing she wants to do is talk about it. Instead, she wants to roar as loud as a lion so she can’t hear their painful words, or turn into a fish and hide her tears in the sea, or even become a bird and fly away.
Slowly, she learns that although some things will change, many other things will remain the same. Although her parents may not agree about much, one thing they do agree on is that they love her very much.